High praise to Vicki Larson for this thorough—and thoroughly enjoyable—deep dive into one of love’s last taboos. As a LAT myself, I found the research and insight here not only reassuring but empowering. It’s more important than ever that the conventions of romance, life’s previously indelible scripts, are put to the test—and that fresh ways of coupling are given the consideration they so richly deserve.
—Lauren Apfel, co-founder and executive editor of Motherwell
Once again Vicki Larson challenges the social constructs of what a ‘successful’ relationship looks like. The answer. . . it’s what works best for you. More and more, couples want to define what works best for them, not just follow a well-worn or traditional path. In this book, Larson delves into how couples cohabitate and shows us how ‘separate is the new sexy.’
—Jennifer Adams, author of A Sleep Divorce: How to Sleep Apart, Not Fall Apart
. . . If the end goal of partnership is to create an environment that fosters a healthy, vibrant relationship, then certainly we need to consider all possibilities available. LATitude is the perfect guide for those who seek to discover, explore, and expand with their mate within a context of commitment and trust.
—Susan Winter, bestselling author and relationship expert
A comprehensive and well-researched book about the joys and benefits of being what I call apartners—committed partners that live apart. Not every couple is meant to live together, or apart for that matter. It’s all about options. There is simply no cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all way to love, and this book will hopefully help readers, and society at large, to think outside the box. Or house!
—Sharon Hyman, director of Apartners: Living Happily Ever Apart
A comprehensive guide on how to live apart—together, delivered through a non-judgemental, historical, practical and exploratory lens. I loved it.
—Dr. Julie Hannan Chartered Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and author of The Midlife Crisis Handbook
Through extensive research as well as candid conversations with couples of all ages and sexual orientations, journalist Vicki Larson explores a seemingly forbidden societal topic: committed romantic couples who choose to live apart from each other. Larson’s LATitude is a must-read, especially for any hesitant men who love the older women leading the way in this growing trend.
—Laura Stassi, Dating While Gray podcast host and author of Romance Redux: Finding Love In Your Later Years
This is essential reading for couples in live-apart relationships, or considering one, as well as friends and relatives trying to understand what goes on when two people share a single love in separate domiciles. Written in a breezy, non-judgmental style, the book is meticulously researched, ranging smoothly, logically, and with great clarity through experts and anecdotes from real, everyday participants. As with traditionally housed marriages, there are pitfalls and rewards. Oddly, it becomes clear that what looks like a fateful decision ends up creating just the same possibilities for happiness or torture that people living together experience. For some it’s a feminist choice, for others a protector of intimacy or boundaries, and for others just another way to balance independence and togetherness. Larson cuts through the data and finds the humanity and love that can dwell here, there, or anywhere.
—Neal Allen, author of Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic
If you're seeking practical, realistic ways to live ‘together apart’ with another human being, this book is for you. More to the point, Vicki Larson is the author for you. As with her previous books, in LATitude: How You Can Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work, Larson tackles taboos, busts myths, and challenges the status quo through a fascinating blend of research, interviews, and anecdotes. Regardless of whether or not you ultimately embrace LAT living, you're guaranteed to enjoy every page of this new book, written with Larson's characteristic thoroughness, honesty, and humor.
—Willow Older, co-author, Today I Noticed: A Little Book of Mindfulness that Will Change the Way You See the World
Larson has her finger on the pulse of an ahead-of-the-curve lifestyle option for couples who want loving committed relationships without sacrificing their own space—and sense of independence. Her deeply-researched book is a must-read for existing "LATs" and a practical how-to guide anyone exploring the potential benefits of a Living Apart Together relationship. Don't miss it.
—Nicole Rodgers, founder and executive director of Family Story